Paidion,
apollumi
When the NT says a thing is destroyed it often means the undesireable aspects of the thing are destroyed, and not the thing itself.
It doesn't appear to me that the word carries this meaning the vast majority of the time it is used. I am not sure that it "often" means what you are implying, but only in a relatively small number of verses.
In fact, I am not able to find
any verses in which being destroyed means "only the undesirable aspects of the thing are destroyed".
When John 12 and other verses that speak of "losing" (apollumi) our lives, though the loss of our old lives is a good thing for us, and is an undesirable aspect of our being, it is still the case that our "old lives"
are lost, destroyed etc. So when the word is used of our final end, it should mean the same for us as it does for our "old lives". i.e. lost, destroyed, etc.
Take the use of the word in Matt. 5:29.
Mat 5:29 And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish (apollumi), and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.
The destruction of our eye would ultimatly be a good thing in this instance. If it is causing us to sin, it is an "undesirable aspect", and it would be good for it to be destroyed. But the fact remains that
the eye is destroyed by being plucked out. So when
we are "apollumi" the word should have the same meaning it carries for our eye.
Again, when our "sinful eye" is "apollumi", it is an undesirable aspect of a thing (us) that is being purged. But the sinful eye
itself is not being improved in any way, but is destroyed altogether. So when
we are "apollumi", it should be understood that the same thing is happening to us as happened to the "sinful eye".
I looked at all 95 occurences (albeit breifly) and couldn't see any of them as meaning "only the undesirable aspects of a thing are destroyed". But hey, I can be kinda dense. :-) Again, I found instances where the undesirable things
themselves were "apollumi" (our old lives, eye that causes us to sin, etc), but that's different than what you are saying.
1 Peter 1:7
In 1 Peter 1:7, I don't think that Peter's meaning when speaking of gold "perishing" is that it is refined by that act. Even if gold is purified by fire, it is not "apollumi" in the fire in any way that the word is used in scripture.
I think his meaning is that it is temporary. The fact that the gold "perishes", (which it ultimatly does, though not literally in the case of fire), is one of the many things that makes our faith "more precious".
To paraphrase, "your faith is worth more than gold, even if the gold has been tried by fire, because it eventually perishes." (I realize that's a loose paraphrase).
I think the NASB rendering brings this out:
1Pe 1:7 so that the proof of your faith, being more precious than gold which is perishable, (lit. is perishing), even though tested by fire, may be found to result in praise and glory and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ;
The word is used the same way in John 6:27:
Joh 6:27 Labour not for the meat which perisheth, but for that meat which endureth unto everlasting life, which the Son of man shall give unto you: for him hath God the Father sealed.
It's not only the undesirable aspects of the food that are "apollumi". The food itself perishes. It goes away; It's temporal. I think this is exactly the same meaning that Peter intends.
The "second death.
Just as we all need to die physically in the first death. So we all need to die spiritually (that is, to our old natures) in the second death. True disciples of Christ have already done this. People who haven't will have to do so in the Lake of Fire.
So we die our "second death" before our "first death"?
In Revelation, John also tells us that the overcomers will share in the first resurrection (the resurrection of the righteous at the coming of Christ). So it is no wonder that he also states the second death has no power over those who have a part in the first resurrection.
It seems that one's position on the millenium will affect how they interpret the "first ressurection". Being amillenial, I see those that "have part in the first resurrection" reigning with Christ during the "thousand years" a.k.a. the "church age".
I think that a case can be made that the "first resurrection" is a spiritual phenonmenon, and is different than the ressurection in Rev. 20:13.
We know that there's only one physical resurrection, which happens on the "last day" (Jn. 6:39,40,54 and 12:48). However, it seems very odd that John would call the
only resurrection the "
first" resurrection.
There is a lot of "resurrection language" applied to our life with Christ on this side of eternity. If the amillenial position is correct, being regenerated by Christ is the first resurrection. At least, I'm not sure how else someone who is amillenial could interpret it.
Here are some of those verses which use "resurrection language".
Joh 5:24 "Truly, truly, I say to you, he who hears My word, and believes Him who sent Me, has eternal life, and does not come into judgment, but has passed out of death into life.
Eph 2:5 even when we were dead in our transgressions, made us alive together with Christ (by grace you have been saved),
Eph 2:6 and raised us up with Him, and seated us with Him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus,
Col 2:13 When you were dead in your transgressions and the uncircumcision of your flesh, He made you alive together with Him, having forgiven us all our transgressions,
Col 3:1 Therefore if you have been raised up with Christ, keep seeking the things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God.
Rom 6:13 ...and do not go on presenting the members of your body to sin as instruments of unrighteousness; but present yourselves to God as those alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to God.
In all of these verses we are spoken of as formerlly dead, and now alive. This must apply spiritually. These verses, coupled with the fact that John refers to the resurrection in 20:5 as the "first", and, (in my opinion), the strength of the case for amillenialism leads me to believe that there is a spiritual, as well as physical resurrection.
I would identify "dying to self", and "to our old natures" and the like with the "first resurrection", (because it happens as a result of having new life), as opposed to the "first death".
I would identify the "first death" as that which Adam has brought to us. The state of separation from God through sin. Death both spiritually and physically. We are freed from this in a sense, by coming to Christ, (see above verses), however, most of us will still have to die physically, so there is a sense in which we are still affected by the first death.
The second death, I still think, is the final destruction of those that are separated from God, and that which we do not have to fear, since we are believers.
God bless,