Thank you for taking the time to reply. I think I am indeed confused about what you (and Jesus) are affirming. Throughout this thread I have understood you to be affirming that to be accepted by Christ means that one's motives for their actions must be of a purity that consideration of selfish desires has to be completely absent. I'm inferencing this from statements such as the following:
Steve wrote:A man or woman must choose Christ even if it costs him or her everything, and benefits nothing. It is Christ's due
Steve wrote:In affirming (as I have been saying since my teen years) that I would serve Christ even if there were no rewards or punishments to consider, I know I am telling the truth, and I never thought of it as a boast. I simply have considered this to be the biblical attitude of those who love God
Steve wrote:A man or woman must choose Christ even if it costs him or her everything, and benefits nothing. It is Christ's due.
Steve wrote: Motive, apparently, is everything
We are talking about motivation for following Christ
This culminated in the example you gave of your first wife who, in her last moments, acted in a manner that could be described as essentially selfless. Per Matthew 10:37, I understood you to affirm that a disciple's denial of himself for the sake of God must exceed that of her denial of self for the sake of her daughter.Steve wrote:If there were no heaven, would you still lay your life down for God?" it is simple and honest to answer similarly. To answer otherwise would mean that I love God less than I love my children, and cannot be a disciple (Luke 14:26; Matt.10:37).
If complete self denial is indeed required, why not raise the bar even higher to bring it out more clearly? For example, suppose the traditional eternal destinies of the righteous and wicked were swapped. Should we say that if a person wishes to discern if they really are a true follower, that they should ponder whether they would be willing to serve Christ if the outcome were to mean being assigned to endless, eternal conscience torment, and forgoing the alternative of disobedience which results in being granted an eternal life of everlasting joy and bliss?
This led me to ask myself the questions: Have I denied myself enough to be acceptable to Christ? Are my motives pure enough to be accepted by Christ? If I am lacking in such, how can I remedy the situation? Pursuant to the ice cream example, I can see that at my discretion I could elect to live a more selfless life than I have been doing up until now. My choice not to "go further" can only be categorized as selfish. It is driven by nothing besides concerns for my own experience of a certain amount of personal pleasure, for no one else was able to participate in the pleasure of consuming it. I have clearly embraced a lifestyle that retains a place for selfish actions to accommodated.
This leads me back to the point that denial of self is a matter of degree, and that it can never be complete. Perhaps you were in agreement with this all along - and I overlooked it. For you had said:
The word "primarily" is the key. Do you agree or disagree that a person is accepted by Christ if his decision to follow him is based "partially", "somewhat", or "a little bit" on his own selfishness? If so, do you have any suggestions about discerning "how much" selflessness is enough to please Christ? As I see it, the only thing separating me and the man in the OP is a matter of degree, not of kind, and so I have no solid ground on which to stand to critique his position.Steve wrote:If one is following Christ primarily or exclusively out of [selfishness]*, there is no biblical reason to be assured of his conversion. It's that simple. I don't go around deciding who is or is not saved. However, I do think I have an idea, based upon scripture, of what is required of a person in order to be saved: repentance. This word means a change of mind. What has to change in the mind? Simply the opinion of whose interests will come first in one's life from that point onward.
Peter