Christians owe monogamous, loving, homosexual couples a huge apology for not applying the same judgment to divorced Christians.
I don't owe anyone an apology on this matter, as I do not apply different standards of judgment on either of the issues you raise. You also seem to think that there are no instances where a Christian can rightfully divorce, but scripture contradicts such a thought(Matthew 19:9 1 Cor 7:15)
The number of Christians who have been divorced is far greater than the number of Christians who are gay.
You're using the word "Christian" in an unbiblical manner. There aren't any practicing "gay" Christians, any more than there are practicing adulterous Christians. The bible uses the word "Christian" to speak of disciples(Acts 11:26). A "Christian" disciple follows the teachings of Jesus and His Apostles, who taught that homosexuality is a sin that needs to be repented of.
Jesus was explicit about divorce and remarriage, but did not speak directly of homosexuality.
He also didn't directly address bestiality, so whats your point? He did however speak of "the law and the prophets", which teach that homosexual practice is sinful. (Lev 18:22)
If we require gays to be repentant in order to be accepted as Christians, or in marriage, we need to hold that same standard of repentance to divorced Christians; most divorced Christians I've met are not repentant, but rather justify their decision. If elders took this issue seriously, our churches would clear out in a hurry. If we are going to legislate against gay marriage, then we should spend even more resources on banning no-fault divorce laws because it is more prevalent. If we won't let gay couples be comfortable in our churches, we should not let divorcees (or worse, remarried divorcees) be comfortable in our churches.
Where do you draw the line? Let's say that a man wanted to have several wives and be accepted in the Christian church, is that ok?
By saying this, I am not attempting to allow one sin (if we define it that way) because of sins that are committed by others. "What shall we do then, shall we sin more so that grace may abound? By no means!" That's akin to allowing one of my children to steal a toy because their friend did. What I am drawing out is the hypocrisy of Christians on this issue. If you all are serious about it, then you need to get your own house [church] in order.[/quote]