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dwight92070
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Dreams

Post by dwight92070 » Sun Aug 07, 2016 9:10 pm

This topic, too, is related to my discussion with Mattrose.

As a married Christian man, if you continue to have dreams about another woman, is that a sin that you need to repent of?

As a married Christian woman, if you continue to have dreams about another man, is that a sin that you need to repent of?

If you have a dream in which you acted sensually or immorally, is that a sin that you need to repent of?

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Re: Dreams

Post by Paidion » Mon Aug 08, 2016 11:07 am

Survey Questions:
As a married Christian man, if you continue to have dreams about another woman, is that a sin that you need to repent of?
No
As a married Christian woman, if you continue to have dreams about another man, is that a sin that you need to repent of?
Not Applicable
If you have a dream in which you acted sensually or immorally, is that a sin that you need to repent of?
No

I answered "No" because one has no control of dreams.
Even in waking hours a person may see an attractive person of the other sex, and actually feel attracted to the person. This feeling of attraction is not a sin. Feelings come and go, and are not within our control, though we can get control of them gradually through practice. For example, I get angry far less than I did when I was a young man.

Where sin comes in, is not that we have dreams or feelings, but it is where we act on those dreams or feelings.
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Re: Dreams

Post by mattrose » Mon Aug 08, 2016 5:04 pm

I am of the opinion that dreams are, for the most part, simply the brain's recycling center and/or garbage dump. I don't think that people, generally, have control over the content of their dreams. Insofar as dreams are involuntary, they aren't sinful. I agree with John Wesley that there is a distinction well worth making between willful sins and infirmities.

One could, I think, have a much better chance of avoiding sexually explicit dreams by refraining from viewing sexually explicit material (pornography). I have never personally struggled with pornography, but I'd imagine that if I did, it would be a difficult (impossible?) process to unsee such images... and that could find way into one's dreams.

I do believe some dreams come from God.

And I believe it would be theoretically possible for a dream to have its source in Satan.

In fact, that was basically the conclusion most people were coming to in my thread (and its a conclusion I would tend to agree with). My dreams (at least the ones since entering into a committed relationship with my wife) were likely an (unsuccessful) attempt by Satan to tempt me toward breaking that commitment. He uses the basically unavoidable proximity of this previous love-interest at a strategic (from his point of view) time of the year to try to trip me up. It makes a lot of sense from Satan's perspective. I see her a lot during that week (camp). And since I'm the co-director of the camp (with my wife), we are absolutely exhausted by the end of the week (when the dreams usually begin and continue for a couple weeks each year). So Satan targets me at a time where she's more in my mind and where I'm physically exhausted.

Even still... it doesn't work. By the grace/presence of God I have not given way to these temptations for the decade of time in which they've occurred.

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