Hi Steve,
The Scriptures mention the fact of "virgins" and their "comeliness." I certainly am not "fixated" on that in particular. God may have indeed "accommodated" this fallen nature, but why get all hot under the caller about the way they acted in defending it? But I do think it underscores the superficial nature of why the Jews took them. They were viewed as chattel and spoils of war. Why defend this?
A better question is, “Why assert this?”
There is nothing in these Deuteronomic laws that encourages chattel slavery, and, as I pointed out earlier, most of them are coming against the general ANE cultural tendency to view slaves as mere chattel. Why do you accuse the divinely-appointed law-maker of motives and beliefs that pagans exhibit, but which he never sanctions? Is this fair biblical reading?
Did I accuse the Lawgiver of such motives? Please reread my post. I said "the Jews"--the male Israelites, not God.
Again, I ask you, why do you think physical attraction in marriage is an aspect of “fallen nature” that is merely to be “accommodated”? Are you assuming that God did not build sexual attraction into the first couple, even before there was a “fallen nature” to enjoy it?
the objectors consider it a bad thing for a man to choose a wife whom he finds sexually attractive. The above response seems to be your way of answering this question. . . .You, at least, have been honest enough to weigh in on the side of the proposition that sexual attraction is a base thing in a marriage—a thing which should be condemned, or else merely tolerated with distaste. I am trying in vain to imagine anything other than this presupposition could spawn the specific objection you have raised.
Wise men, whether ancient Jewish or modern Christian, will choose wives for reasons additional to physical attraction. Even that old lecher Solomon knew that (Prov.31:10-23). But few men, however godly, initially pursue a mate without physical attraction being a serious consideration. In the man’s case (though not in the woman’s) he cannot even perform his reproductive duty without sexual attraction (I hope not to shock our female readers with this revelation, and I hardly think our male readers will find any disagreement at all on this point). As near as I can tell,
You speak as if you find this to be a disgusting phenomenon. I find no scriptural basis for your thinking so. Could this be a residual Jehovah’s Witness sensitivity that simply got baked-in from your youth? If so, I would strongly urge you to reconsider the validity of such a prejudice against God’s design. Of course, both psimmond and Paidion have also repeatedly expressed this same bizarre sentiments, without having JW backgrounds. We may never know what factors may have marred their sensitivities on this. It would be interesting to be a fly on the wall for that awkward conversation when they explain to their wives that they never found them physically attractive.
I must say I find this post of yours to be bizarre in the extreme, presumptuous, or just plain sarcastic and nasty. Where pray-tell did I even so much as hint at a distaste for human sexuality in my post? Perhaps you would have been better suited for studying under Freud. You know Steve, sometimes a cigar is just a cigar. Having one thing and one thing only as the criteria for choosing a "wife" (ahem) is tied to a "fallen nature." I am sorry you can't see this. Where do you think "harems" came from? Because they made good cookies or cleaned-tent real well?
As for anything "baked in" from my JW upbringing; the JW view of sex is about as uptight and conservative as your average evangelical church. So, my exposure to matters of sexuality was probably similar to yours.
I understand that it is common these days for conservative men (of which I consider myself, at least socially) to drink deeply of the concept of "misandry" and get very defensive about natural male instincts and to recoil at concepts that could be remotely construed as "feminist." Perhaps this could be fueling your somewhat Israeli retaliation against my paltry Palestinian rock-throwing?
If the nation of Israel were run by women and the instruction was given that the female warriors should choose as spoils the men with the most money or largest collection of Rolex watches, I would react the same. It is part of the natural instinct of the female to find money to be an attractive thing, because money can equal security, and most women value security. I'm sure that you have met your fair share of women that would likely not have tossed their duffel bag in your VW Van and went on a missionary trip. It tends to not be in the female nature.
By the way, maybe sending male missionaries into the field to countries where women are required to convert to their husbands religion, and having them marry all the young gals would be a better way of evangelizing? I can imagine the mission fields would runneth over....
I wonder why thou protesteth so much over this? It was taught to me once that a person's reaction to something is related in some way to their emotional investment in a matter. This is why it was very hard for me to ever penetrate my fellow JW's thinking on matters related to the Organization. There was just too much emotion tied to the subject for them to respond appropriately. As I reread this interchange, and I noticed the somewhat tepid comments made by myself, and your clearly emotional response (and yes Steve, your response oozes emotion) I wonder what nerve was struck that caused such a reaction? Especially a reaction so full of presumptions and judgments about me; something you could not possibly be privy to? For someone that is as typically rational and Spock-like as you tend to be (to a fault it seems), I am quite surprised by your tone.
Regards, Brenden.